Ah, now, the sex position men fantasize about more than any other! As a man, it's exciting to see your penis moving in and out of your partner's vulva at the best of times, but when this scene is framed by the cheeks of her bottom, sex in this position becomes something extremely arousing, sexy and downright lustful!
Many women can't quite see why men find this such a turn-on, though they may well be happy to go along with their man's all-too-obvious desire to fuck in this way from time to time. I doubt it's a mainstay for most couples because women tend to find it a bit impersonal: it makes many women feel like they're a sex object. And a huge number of women are very concerned about what they look like in this position - whether their bodies are up to scratch or not. But I'd have to say that most men, when making love in this position, don't spend a lot of time thinking about the ethics of sex or what their partner looks like: they're just consumed with lust and the desire to come inside their partner!
For rear entry sex - also known as doggy style - is extremely arousing for men. It's the primeval, lustful position, the one that comes straight down to us from our animal ancestry. It's the one that we'd have fucked in throughout the development of the human race - and quickly, too, for life could be short, and time spent having sex was time exposed to the attentions of predators or competitors. Does that explain why so many men come so quickly in this position? Yes, probably. And it probably also explains why we find it so arousing - it's the ultimate stimulus to mate: the sight of a willing female's buttocks.
But what about now, in our sophisticated society? The truth is that the animal instincts which make this position so arousing aren't buried very deep in us - we can reach a pitch of lustfulness during rear entry sex perhaps unmatched in any other position, men and women alike. For once a woman has put aside her fears about what she looks like, when she's having sex with her trusted partner, she can find a real liberation of spirit in rear entry sex, a trustfulness, a raw sexual energy, easily the equal of her man's.
So what are the practical aspects of "doggy style sex" that we need to think about? Apart, that is, from the sheer lustfulness of this position? Well, it gives the woman a sense of her sexual power, and she can make a lot of movements, synchronizing her rhythm to match her man's thrusts, or grinding her hips in a circular pattern to give them both extra thrills, or even having him stand still while she moves back and forth along his shaft. This means she can find the best way to stimulate her G spot.
If a couple want to try it, what advantages does rear entry have? Well, the man has a great deal of flexibility in how he moves, and the type of thrusts he can make. He can thrust deep or shallow as he wishes, and he can see his penis entering his partner, which is always a great turn-on. Either he or she can reach down and stimulate her clitoris, and he can play with her buttocks or anus if that's exciting for them both. All in all, it's a very flexible position, with a lot of alternatives to satisfy both the man and the woman. In general, since men come quicker in this position than any other, most women won't get to orgasm this way....but they can certainly reflect on the fact that rear entry gives them massive influence over how aroused and excited their man is going to get during sex!
And what of the disadvantages? There aren't many, but as we already mentioned, sex in the rear entry position can seem a bit impersonal. You can overcome this by using mirrors, which allow you to look at each other and smile during sex, and also to see the expression on each other's faces.
A word of advice for men: If you find that your penis slips out as you thrust, then hug her closer round the waist and perhaps take shorter strokes. Get her to move with you in a matching rhythm - which might take a few tries to establish - and you'll find that there's no problem staying inside her, even if your penis is a bit shorter than average.
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